That gives you a choice, you can either call her that night or not. If you do call her then you can set up a date. Could he be with another girl? Don't use this as a purposely manipulative tactic, just be a busy guy who is pursuing his purpose or mission in life and it will happen naturally.
You should be a busy guy — busy getting more phone numbers if nothing else — so your texting should be somewhat random. Anything after 1 a. QUIZ 1. Give three examples of playful nicknames. When you text a girl you like, your texting should NOT be random.
You should make up your own texts so they are congruent to your personality. When text,. You should reward good behavior and punish bad behavior. Quickly skim through the Texting Do's and Don'ts and think back to 3 specific instances when you broke any of those rules.
With your new knowledge, how could you have done things differently in those 3 situations? Write down your answers. Inner Game Exercise: Condition your mind for success. Visit our members only forum at www. This will help to condition your mind, allowing you to find success in all of your texting interactions. I recommended you do this regularly. The remedy is to look at every interaction as a success.
Get into this habit and I promise you that your entire life will be transformed. An easy way to reprogram this thought process is to post all of your success onto our forum. Focus on the positive and more positive interactions and experiences will come your way. While walking back to his Hong Kong apartment after a long hard day at work, Alan had seen one of the most gorgeous women he had ever feasted his eyes upon.
She had dark hair, a curvy figure and eyes that sent a shiver down his spine. She was like something out of a dream or a wild fantasy. She also happened to be Miss Malaysia, and was by far one of the hottest women Alan had ever seen. Many years before, Alan might have walked on, resigning this beautiful woman to his memory bank, yearning and lusting after her for years to come but never seeing her again.
But he was a different man now. Thanks to his training with Matt during the previous year's AsiaTrip in January — where he traveled with Matt throughout the Philippines, Singapore and Indonesia — Alan knew exactly how to approach her, how to spark an attraction, how to get her number and how to leave her wanting more.
He now had the number, but what next? He was dripping with enthusiasm as he remembered what Matt had told him about texting her in order to get a date immediately. Else, do not address her question. Every text you send should serve a purpose. BTW most models I meet are really pretentious He put his phone down and distracted himself with a quick game of Grand Theft Auto 5, trying his best not to think about the beautiful woman and her mesmerizing eyes as he ran over civilians and murdered drug dealers.
Whilst he was sucked into his game, Alan heard his phone go off. He saw it was Miss Malaysia, but he decided to resist his urge to look at it and just keep playing his game. No sense in getting needy; Matt had taught him better than that.
Girls and their silly little games. Mission accomplished. Alan slid in another game, relaxed into his chair, tossed his phone at a pillow behind him and grinned as he blithely began maneuvering Lara Croft in an epic game of Tomb Raider. I've coached many men and many women and the biggest complaint I hear from the women is that men don't ask them out soon enough.
They just sit at home, twiddling their thumbs and getting increasingly frustrated because the men they like are playing hard to get and are refusing to make their move. The following system will demonstrate that you have the balls to ask her out quickly, and will help you score the date right away. I've used it time and time again and it works incredibly well.
However, before you do this you need to make sure that you have already intrigued her, sparking her interest during your first encounter. It should be fun and interesting, string up emotions inside of her and baiting her to reply back. If you can, include a playful nickname that uses callback humor — recalling something funny from when you met her. Your first text should also include a question or statement that baits her to respond so she becomes conditioned to reply to your texts. You could wait in the past, patience often paid off back then, but that was a long time ago.
The idea is to text her while you are still fresh on her mind, before she gets distracted by everything else in her world. We'll start adding more fun and sexuality as we progress.
Don't say Gemini! Send your text within 24 hours of meeting her. You can also send her a text the night you meet her in an attempt to get her over to your house straight away. This can work great if there was strong sexual tension between you but she had to drop off her friends first, which prevented her from going home with you.
But, more on that later. This works great for women you meet at bars and clubs or women that appear a little more sexually adventurous. Million dollar advertising agencies and Hollywood movie writers have used this technique for years to hook buyers into reading and watching their ads, luring them into buying their products.
It's kind of like a Quentin Tarantino movie. You have no idea what is going to happen next so you're on the edge of your seat with your eyes glued to the screen. Since we are going for the date rather quickly in this system, send a Cliff Hanger statement that transitions into getting her out on a date. However, you can use a Cliff Hanger any time you want to see if she's free to start a new texting interaction. Most guys are way too supplicating and accommodating when it comes to texting women, but women enjoy a man who challenges them because it shows he's not needy or desperate.
Believe it or not, women want a man that they have to work for. I know this really fun place. Have you ever played laser tag? And, think about this: When you reel in a big fish, do you passively and gently reel it in?
When you go for a date with her, the key is to be dominant, NOT passive. Assume that she wants to see you and tell her in a commanding manner that you and her are going to hang out. Women love it when the man takes charge and tells them what to do.
It makes the guy appear afraid and indecisive. So, reel her in quickly and strike while the iron's hot — go for the hangout sooner rather than later. Start by finding out what her schedule is like and when she is free, then simply invite her to do something fun with you.
Or you can just keep it vague, but always make sure to put a restriction on it Release. It puts you in a place of power by adding an additional challenge to your invitation to hang out with you. So, subtly release the invitation and make her work for it by using a restriction at the end of the invite. Let's see an example: I met a girl named Jen at the bookstore, got her number, but forgot to set up a date on the spot. What's your schedule like?
He keeps stealing paper clips. Need a job? You're not going to ruffee my mojito are you? If you find that it doesn't work for you, then there is something going wrong with your initial approach.
It's nothing to get upset about, it's just feedback. My team of coaches and I are here to help you and make sure every aspect of your interaction is flawless. Don't worry if you didn't intrigue her enough to get a date immediately using the system, I've still got you covered.
Sending a text to a girl within 20 minutes of meeting her during the day day game is way too soon. If it doesn't work the first time don't worry; in the next section you will learn how to spark more attraction so you can go for a date again. If you don't have any phone numbers then your assignment is to go out and get at least one number. If you are freaking out at the thought of approaching a woman then you probably need to work with a live coach. You can visit www. Quiz Answers: 1.
Hook 2. Felix had been texting Sofia, the beautiful Latin bombshell he had met at Starbucks, for four days, making her laugh, showing his dominance and building a deep connection.
He even got her to draw him a picture of a drunk monkey falling out of a coconut tree, which she sent to him via text. Needless to say, it was on. It was Tuesday and Felix had already set up a date with Sofia for the coming Thursday night at his favorite karaoke bar. Everything was going great, but Felix wanted more; he wanted to turn up the heat so that she'd start thinking about him in a sexual manner.
He didn't want to ruin the foundation he had already created. Sofia was a smart girl, and Felix really liked that. She was the complete package, with both looks and personality. She truly was the perfect girl. She had mentioned to Felix that she was stressed out about an important job interview the following day. She was fresh out of college and it would be the perfect job to utilize her newly gained skills.
But she was dreading it, terrified because she hadn't had a proper job interview since her short stint as a barista in high school. Felix thought he'd take advantage of the situation and practice his texting skills, seeing if he could get Sofia relaxed, and even slightly aroused.
Felix grinned as he began feverishly composing another text. You take a slow deep breath and relax into my arms as time stands still. As I continue to massage your back you feel pure pleasure shooting through your body as my hands roam and gently caress your You feel unstrained as your imagination begins to drift.
Where is this going to lead, you wonder as you slowly place your soft delicate palms on top of my brawny knuckles, admiring the girth and size of my hands as you move them down. I wrap my arms around your stomach as a warm sensation shoots through your spine. I pick you up and Had he taken it too far? He was leading the interaction like he thought he was supposed to, but maybe it was too sexual, too soon? He was relieved when he saw his phone light up.
What are you going to do? Do you remember the 4 emotions that you want her to have and to associate with you? They are: 1. Fun Tenderness — Joy is a prerequisite to getting a date; triggered through the use of funny, playful, random and often wacky texts. Being A Challenge Power — Sparking her interest by getting her to invest in the interaction through the use of challenges, commands, requests and cliff hangers.
Trust Tenderness — Generally a prerequisite to sex; triggered by building rapport and bringing her into your world. Desire Power — Getting her to think naughty thoughts about you; triggered through the use of descriptive and sensual language. So let's dive into the first one That's all they really want. The opposite of being fun is being boring.
Most guys are boring during the approach, they are boring through text, they are boring on the date, boring in bed and boring in a relationship. Women hate boring, but most of them settle for boring because that's all they think is out there. Remember: For women, attraction is always fading. Fun texts will keep them on an emotional high and strengthen the attraction that you established during the first encounter.
Even if there was little or no initial attraction, sending her fun texts that stimulate her emotions will create an attraction for you that she didn't previously feel. Fun needs to be your foundation when it comes to texting. When she is having fun texting back with you she will feel emotions of joy and will unconsciously realize that going on a date with you would also be very enjoyable.
Furthermore, when she sees that you are fun and that you have a great sense of humor, it lays the groundwork that allows you to get away with a lot more in the future. What I mean is, when she sees that you have a fun positive outlook on life and that you don't take things too seriously, you can get intimate with her a lot faster and easier than if you displayed a stale and dull personality. Since you laid the foundation of fun and she now expects crazy and over-the-top texts from you, it allows you to get away with being sexual through text and also lets you escalate a lot quicker on the date.
The idea here is to train and condition her to expect fun, flirty texts from you, so that every time your texts pop up, her endorphins immediately kick in and she instantly begins to feel a sense of excitement and joy. This is Pavlov's Theory in full effect. The key is to capture her full attention and distract her from the monotony of her daily routine, which will give her a rush of positive emotions that will regenerate her day.
You will essentially become her texting hero. Make sure the text you send is fun for you. You should be laughing as you are sending it. If not, then choose a different text or come up with your own. If you are chuckling, then she will most likely be chuckling too. It repels girls and will put you in the friend zone. Probably that you masturbate all the time, or in the least that you think about whacking off, which is not inherently attractive.
Instead, you want to use playful texts that show positive qualities about yourself, texts that display your dominance, imply she's chasing you, or texts that whisk her away from her mundane life. You don't want to be type-casted as a tap dancing monkey or a silly clown. No girl wants to sleep with a clown. The problem with going for a date out of the blue is that you have no idea what state she's in at that moment. If she's in a negative state then she'll probably refuse the date.
So, it's a zillion times more effective to make her laugh before you attempt to make plans with her. The following text messages are examples of fun texts. You are welcome to use them word for word; however, it is advantageous for you to come up with your own material as it will be congruent with your personality and will help your creativity when it comes to being fun and playful.
If you do use the following texts, choose texts that are fun for you. Most guys are afraid to tease a girl in fear that she will get mad and lose interest, so they end up just playing it safe. When you can playfully tease a woman it shows her that you are not an overly nice guy who is going to succumb to her every whim. You should never tease in a mean-spirited fashion, but instead make sure that it always adds value to her day and makes her feel good.
If the teasing text you are about to send seems too harsh, then add an emoticon so that she knows you have positive intentions and are trying to brighten her day, as opposed to bringing her down.
Minus the closet! Try to mix cockiness with a touch of humor as this is very effective, and will set you apart from the average needy guys who try to seek her approval.
It also jokingly sets the framework that she is chasing you, which baits her to play along and agree to that role. So I thought I would say hi! You essentially bait her into thinking that you are saying one thing — like being totally overly into her — and then switch to something else — like teasing her or being cocky.
It's like lowering her attraction for a moment so that you can increase it even higher. Why would I be thinking about you? But enough about me, what r u up to? I really miss you and want to see you badly BUT this dumbass security guard won't let me in the zoo. Can you escape? I think Jessica Alba is really hot.
There, I said it, phew! This allows her to actually picture and feel the emotions of whatever fictitious reality you are describing to her. The psychological effects of role-playing are vast. Most of the time women will respond by role-playing along with you. This creates further compliance and allows them to imagine what it would be like if that role-play were real.
Role-playing also allows you to be outlandish, to get away with sexual scenarios that would normally be inappropriate. A role-play also brings one back to a child-like state since role-playing is a common way for children to interact and play. Remember playing doctor with the little girl down the street when you were a child? Trust me, role-playing as an adult is way more fun; you have more experience, more imagination and more clearly defined goals.
There are no boundaries, no limits to what can turn a woman on and ignite her imagination, so have some fun and experiment. Its not you its me. Was fun though. Other role-play ideas: old married couple, getting a divorce, tongue-in-cheek romance, pimp and ho, adopting her as your bratty niece. Everyone associates playing games with having fun, so interrupt her boring mundane day with a fun game and she will always think of you as the fun guy that makes her feel good, making her feel constantly excited to receive more of your texts.
If you were on a deserted island would you rather have a musical instrument or a pen and paper? Make sure you are at a computer so you can look it up.
After you answer her questions, ask her a tough question and then make fun of her if she gets it wrong. She may also ask you personal questions, which is even better because it builds trust and gets her invested in the idea that she wants to get to know you better. Either way, it's all good. Use this technique throughout all of your interactions including face-to-face and watch the attraction skyrocket. If you are not using it in your real-life interactions, then start using it right away.
The concept is simple. If you push too much by appearing too aloof or uninterested, then you will usually push her away to the point that she loses interest, because she will assume you are just not into her.
When you put the two together, you can maintain a good balance of showing interest and being a challenge, the result of which is pure dynamite!
Confusing a woman is a good thing because it will make you appear mysterious, like someone she just can't put her finger on ironically causing her to want to put her fingers on you. This is the exact opposite of being predictable, which is a quality in men that most women loathe.
Remember, being random also means being random in your response time. After she sends a text, sometimes text her immediately, sometimes wait a few minutes, sometimes wait an hour, sometimes wait a few hours, and sometimes don't text back at all.
Keeping your response time random keeps things interesting so she can't quite figure you out and makes her further anticipate your next text, increasing her investment.
When you're minding your own business then You're one of those flying monkey lovers, aren't you? Almost any joke will do. You should never ask a woman for her phone number. Sending her fun, playful texts will increase her level of: a Attraction b Trust c Lust d All of the above 3. Every single text you send a girl should be fun and playful.
Name 3 different categories of fun texts three things you can do via text that are fun. The texts you send a girl should be congruent with your personality. Generate 3 of your very own fun texts in any of the above categories. Be creative and make sure the texts are in-sync with your personality. Pick 3 girls in your contact book and send each of them one of the 3 original fun texts that you created. Keep in mind that this is just practice. Compose and send the 3 texts before you move on to the next section.
Make sure to other guys in www. Women love to feel desired and crave it on an instinctual level, but they need to earn that desire first. If you are attracted to her too easily then you will appear desperate and needy, and it will seem like you don't have any other options. No woman wants a man if she is his only option. Women do want to be desired for their physical attractiveness, but they don't want that attractiveness to be the only object of your desire.
A prerequisite to demonstrating your desire for her is to make her earn it first. This is done by challenging her, getting her to qualify herself to you and subtly disqualifying yourself to her, getting her to further invest in the interaction, and showing a mixture of interest and disinterest.
When you are a challenge, the woman has to work hard to attract you and you will appear as if you have a lot of other options other women in your life , which is highly attractive.
It's human nature to want and appreciate something that is hard to get. Think about it, if you had to work your ass off for five years to afford a nice car, wouldn't you appreciate it a lot more than if someone just handed you the keys for free?
Still, as with all concepts in this course, be careful not to overdo it or you can come off as aloof or disinterested. Qualification through texting is best done in a playful way. Would a guy who has no other dating options challenge a woman to see if she meets his standards? Of course not. If he had no other options then he'd probably do everything in his power to make her like him. Qualifying and being a challenge for her shows that you are not desperate and that you have other options, which makes her chase you and increases her attraction towards you.
Okay two out of three Hershey Kisses or Nestle Crunch? You are so bad! Not the best post workout meal, but what can you do. What do you think? The technique of negating something is more powerful than you might think, because our unconscious minds don't know the difference between a positive and negative statement.
That may seem sneaky, but it works, and it works well. So, when you tell a woman that she can't do something, it makes her want to do it since it's human nature to want what we can't have, and it also plants the seed of doing it into her unconscious mind. It's a double whammy! Pretty potent, huh? This is true for the approach, texting, asking her on a date, etc.
But it's also the man's responsibility to get the woman to invest and start chasing him. This is accomplished through text, by getting her to do something for you or by enticing her to write back and ask you questions.
You can ask her to take a picture of something, draw a picture of something, or you can simply use a Cliff Hanger to pique her curiosity. The following texts will hook her in, causing her to invest more. The more invested she becomes, the more she will fear losing you. El Pollo Loco or Subway? A woman needs to feel that she has earned your attraction towards her. Name one way that you can express to a woman, through text, that you are challenging.
When you tell someone to not do something, it plants the idea of doing it into their. The concept Push-Pull allows you to show the perfect balance of and? At first things were good but now she keeps on not responding. Have I lost her? During a conversation I wanted to ask her a question unrelated I felt it was too personal to ask over text. She kept pushing me to ask. Was she trying to get me to ask her if she likes me? Also she does sometines text first but when we actaully text she only answers what I ask or say- she never contributed much to the conversation- any idea why that is?
I left my husband almost 4 years ago. We are still married… He reads my emails and puts them in a folder. But never responds to them. Just to the one that I stated I was filing then he met me we talked 3 hours.. I said I would not get one.. He knows I want him back… I send him daily text and emails.. What can I say to him in my emails to make him want me and come back to me?? I used to ask myself questions like, am I saying this right? Will she misinterpret this? Does this sound too needy?
I have a crush on this girl and she knows. So i met a girl at a party and she gave me her number, i texted her the next day and eventually worked up the courage to ask her on a date, although she said yes it seemed almost like she wasnt too interested because she says she works all the time..
I need urgent help. I have this girlfriend I was dating, before she traveled abroad to study, we promised to get married to each other. I love her so much that am so afraid to lose her. If you can stand I front of her and make a conversation with her for at least two minutes….
Start with the friend zone and get to know her better first then make a move. I have a friend girl then she already has a suiter then we are only friends. Well first you need to build rapport. Just look for the subtle signs and go ahead and mooch on. Can you help me out with my problem? If she has a boo, dont push it.
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